HOW TO GET OVER A BREAK UP...to ol d heartbroken lovers out der..hehe
We all go through breakups. They can be rough, and they can be not so painful; no matter what, no one really wants to go through them. Breakups are handled differently by different people, and whatever method you use, do it if it helps you! These steps may not be perfect for everyone, but they can help.
Steps
1. Realize what happened and why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this is not your fault. It takes two people to make a relationship start, and two people to have lead it to the break up.
2. Have your good long cries. It's okay to be hurt and feel alone and feel like you have messed up. But you have to know that you are a good person and this is not all one-sided. Even if crying may not seem to have a point or be relevant, for some people it does help.
3. Think through everything in your head. Maybe even try to ask yourself what went wrong. But you also have to think of why you two broke up. There had to have been a reason for it all to end right? If there was a reason but it wasn't a good one, well then this person isn't worth your time.
4. Deal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, furious even. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the "split" was. You may even feel like you hate yourself, but get out of that feeling fast!! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart for no reason.
5. Talk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance. You want people around you that love you and who will help you see that you should love yourself too and that you don't need this sort of pain.
6. Write all your feelings down if it is still seeming unbearable. Write in a journal or write poems.
7. Keep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person. Say, you hear a song or see a picture that reminds you of your ex, you probably get all sad and worked up. Well, instead of feeling that way just think of how happy that memory used to make you, and leave it at that. Don't then say, " That made me so happy. I miss him so much! Why did this happen?!" Just leave that memory as a happy thought and maybe in some way comforting but in the past.
8. Don't overreact. You may be feeling lonely, and want to be with someone, but don't go back to your ex unless you really believe you should be together.
9. Have fun! Go out with all your girlfriends and have a couple of laughs! Try to be happy and see that you still have so much more. You deserve to have a good time.
10. Let go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful,and having hatred toward that person. Realize that maybe that person was your first love, but all good things have to come to an end. But when they do, that's when you see all the flaws in your relationship and that it's best that you aren't together. When you think of your old memories, do not think of them as something you want to have back! Think of them as things in the past that you have put there and left. You have to walk out of your heartache, knowing that you have done all that you can do, said all that you can say, and given as much as you could give. If you feel all this and that you did your part, but he didn't meet you halfway, then you'll be just fine.
Tips
* Try to move on. Not move on as in find another guy, but move on as in try to let go of all the hurtful memories and thoughts.
* Take a bath (or do something else relaxing) to calm yourself and forget about anything bad that might have happened.
* The only way that you will know truly if you're over your ex, is if you see him. This means that when you see him you feel no hate, no sadness, no regret, no nothing.
* Try to think of the good times that you and that person shared together. There are always good memories in ANY relationship!
* Get through it! You can; people have done it, so don't think that you should take the easy way out.
* What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
* It would be best to get rid of his stuff. It would most likely help take your mind off him.
* Do not put yourself through more pain than you have to. Do not think about where he would be right now and if you should visit. Don't try to talk to him about the break up. Don't make yourself think negatively about yourself or your judgment, or anything else that will make you doubt your decisions or yourself.
* If you want to save things from the relationship (letters, ticket stubs, that cute pink teddy bear), put it in a box. Put all of your other ex-boyfriends' things in the box, too. Look through the box every once in awhile; you'll see that yes, he was important, but you were you before him, and you will be you now. You got over those other men, you will get over this one, too.
* Just think about it... it's his or her loss- you're better off without them...
* This too shall pass. Yes, the pain wears off. That is hard to imagine when right in the hurt...but it does wear out. And one feels better, sooner rather than later!
Warnings
* Everyone goes through a break up and everyone has to get over it. It may seem impossible to get through a break up when you're going through it. But just try to say to yourself, "I will be okay, I will get through this, I can."
* Follow your heart.
* These steps may not apply to everyone. We all handle heartbreak in different ways, so it's all up to you!
* This is not advice given by a professional. This is advice given by someone who has gone through it all and is mostly talking from personal experience.
* If this doesn't work out, then find your own way to deal. (Without hurting yourself purposely, ex: Cutting.) You know your heart so do what you feel helps mend it.
P.S. just feel good about yourself and dont take this situation against you ..this is just part of everythn ..just live life 2 d fullest and be happy with the things that hav got into you..just the way that i do...Move on and Be Merry for lyf has bin always short and beautiful...
We all go through breakups. They can be rough, and they can be not so painful; no matter what, no one really wants to go through them. Breakups are handled differently by different people, and whatever method you use, do it if it helps you! These steps may not be perfect for everyone, but they can help.
Steps
1. Realize what happened and why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this is not your fault. It takes two people to make a relationship start, and two people to have lead it to the break up.
2. Have your good long cries. It's okay to be hurt and feel alone and feel like you have messed up. But you have to know that you are a good person and this is not all one-sided. Even if crying may not seem to have a point or be relevant, for some people it does help.
3. Think through everything in your head. Maybe even try to ask yourself what went wrong. But you also have to think of why you two broke up. There had to have been a reason for it all to end right? If there was a reason but it wasn't a good one, well then this person isn't worth your time.
4. Deal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, furious even. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the "split" was. You may even feel like you hate yourself, but get out of that feeling fast!! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart for no reason.
5. Talk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance. You want people around you that love you and who will help you see that you should love yourself too and that you don't need this sort of pain.
6. Write all your feelings down if it is still seeming unbearable. Write in a journal or write poems.
7. Keep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person. Say, you hear a song or see a picture that reminds you of your ex, you probably get all sad and worked up. Well, instead of feeling that way just think of how happy that memory used to make you, and leave it at that. Don't then say, " That made me so happy. I miss him so much! Why did this happen?!" Just leave that memory as a happy thought and maybe in some way comforting but in the past.
8. Don't overreact. You may be feeling lonely, and want to be with someone, but don't go back to your ex unless you really believe you should be together.
9. Have fun! Go out with all your girlfriends and have a couple of laughs! Try to be happy and see that you still have so much more. You deserve to have a good time.
10. Let go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful,and having hatred toward that person. Realize that maybe that person was your first love, but all good things have to come to an end. But when they do, that's when you see all the flaws in your relationship and that it's best that you aren't together. When you think of your old memories, do not think of them as something you want to have back! Think of them as things in the past that you have put there and left. You have to walk out of your heartache, knowing that you have done all that you can do, said all that you can say, and given as much as you could give. If you feel all this and that you did your part, but he didn't meet you halfway, then you'll be just fine.
Tips
* Try to move on. Not move on as in find another guy, but move on as in try to let go of all the hurtful memories and thoughts.
* Take a bath (or do something else relaxing) to calm yourself and forget about anything bad that might have happened.
* The only way that you will know truly if you're over your ex, is if you see him. This means that when you see him you feel no hate, no sadness, no regret, no nothing.
* Try to think of the good times that you and that person shared together. There are always good memories in ANY relationship!
* Get through it! You can; people have done it, so don't think that you should take the easy way out.
* What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
* It would be best to get rid of his stuff. It would most likely help take your mind off him.
* Do not put yourself through more pain than you have to. Do not think about where he would be right now and if you should visit. Don't try to talk to him about the break up. Don't make yourself think negatively about yourself or your judgment, or anything else that will make you doubt your decisions or yourself.
* If you want to save things from the relationship (letters, ticket stubs, that cute pink teddy bear), put it in a box. Put all of your other ex-boyfriends' things in the box, too. Look through the box every once in awhile; you'll see that yes, he was important, but you were you before him, and you will be you now. You got over those other men, you will get over this one, too.
* Just think about it... it's his or her loss- you're better off without them...
* This too shall pass. Yes, the pain wears off. That is hard to imagine when right in the hurt...but it does wear out. And one feels better, sooner rather than later!
Warnings
* Everyone goes through a break up and everyone has to get over it. It may seem impossible to get through a break up when you're going through it. But just try to say to yourself, "I will be okay, I will get through this, I can."
* Follow your heart.
* These steps may not apply to everyone. We all handle heartbreak in different ways, so it's all up to you!
* This is not advice given by a professional. This is advice given by someone who has gone through it all and is mostly talking from personal experience.
* If this doesn't work out, then find your own way to deal. (Without hurting yourself purposely, ex: Cutting.) You know your heart so do what you feel helps mend it.
P.S. just feel good about yourself and dont take this situation against you ..this is just part of everythn ..just live life 2 d fullest and be happy with the things that hav got into you..just the way that i do...Move on and Be Merry for lyf has bin always short and beautiful...
